‘real life v.s instagram’

Real life v.s instagram. It’s easy to get carried away and forget the difference between a picture posted to instagram (or the internet in general) and real life. We all have tough days, we all gets spots and we all have bad hair days and little parts of our lives that we sometimes tend to keep off the internet. Life isn’t always filters, and everything being ‘just so’ but it’s easy to get lost and begin comparing yourself and your life whilst scrolling through looking at beautiful homes, girls with gorgeous figures, faces, fancy food and the likes. Just try and keep in mind, it’s not always a totally accurate representation of how daily life works… because sometimes you want to lounge about in your boyfriends jogging bottoms, you can’t be bothered to wash your hair and you just want to eat pizza. Am I right?
living room
It’s easy to be over critical of ourselves. My room isn’t always neat and tidy, but I’m not going to upload my ‘floordrobe’ to instagram. Everyone has bad days, good days, sick days. I don’t know why, now more than ever it seems there’s this pressure to have a pinterest-worthy life style. Some days that isn’t the case.
if i stay
There’s a difference between capturing a moment in a pretty photograph and the reality of daily life. You do see snippets of my life through a pretty camera lens with soft lighting and pastel themes. I’m always honest on my blog, I feel like I can really just be myself here, I really do love and enjoy photography and capturing beautiful images So i’m always going to upload the ‘best shots’ or the prettiest pictures to my blog or instagram. oscar
Yesterday, I ordered Christmas drink from Starbucks it came in the classic red Starbucks cup and I forgot to instagram it. I genuinely felt, oh god I forgot to do that. But it’s fine I enjoyed my almond and honey hot chocolate topped with chocolate whipped cream and that’s all that matters really. But if I didn’t instagram it did it even happen? Who knows?!
chanel iphone
I’m not saying this is the case all of the time. But someone left a comment previously saying ‘please tell me you’re a real person who has mess and your life isn’t perfect’ Because they felt bad about themselves.. This made me really think…No one’s life is perfect, everyone likes to upload the highlight reel of their day / life to the internet, I wanted to throw some ‘real life’ in with these pretty photographs.
star tea light holder
I think in the blogging world it’s really easy to portray a pretty, perfect life. Life isn’t always as perfect or as glamorous instagram makes out. My house isn’t immaculate 24/7. Just because I photograph the good parts doesn’t mean that the messy days and the bad days don’t happen. They’re still there. Life isn’t always cath kidston, starbucks, michael kors watches and pretty selflies (that you’ve taken ten times before uploading, yeah you know you do that too).
What do you guys think?


  1. November 6, 2014 / 3:04 pm

    This made me laugh! It's so true! Life isn't perfect and nobody is! For me Instagram or blog is for sharing bits and pieces about my life. Of course I'm going to choose the best and something that looks pretty or something that can inspire someone. But I think we might forget to put something "real" in the photos. Thanks for sharing!

  2. November 6, 2014 / 3:06 pm

    loved this post Becky πŸ™‚ especially the cropped out floordrobe! X

  3. November 6, 2014 / 3:16 pm

    I love this Becky, its so real! Glad someone finally posted about this πŸ™‚ xx


  4. November 6, 2014 / 3:24 pm

    Very well said! I always wonder what people would say if they saw the real life of bloggers. The lazy days in pjs and unwashed hair, the shoving on scruffy jeans and a top as you're behind on your washing. Going out with a baby face as you overslept and have no time to do your make up.

    UK Fashion and Lifestyle Blogger

  5. November 6, 2014 / 4:06 pm

    I love this, since becoming slightly obsessed with Instagram recently! Although I don't think there is anything wrong with portraying yourself in a certain way online

    Messing With A Dreamer

  6. November 6, 2014 / 4:08 pm

    It's so easy to get drawn into the idea of the 'perfect life'. I sometimes forget that these are real people too who have good and bad days like everyone else
    Reinventing Neesha β™₯

  7. November 6, 2014 / 4:35 pm

    I couldn't agree more. It's frustrating when people assume your life is perfect when they dont half of the story and really – it's a huge mess that not many people see. This is one of my favourite posts of yours!


  8. November 6, 2014 / 4:47 pm

    This is such a lovely post! And soo true… really easy to feel bad about yourself when you are constantly comparing! xx

  9. November 6, 2014 / 5:18 pm

    Really needed reminding of this! And it's so true about feeling annoyed when you miss a good instagram photo which is just ridiculous really isn't it! I don't think I'm the only one who struggles to go out for food and not take a photo before I tuck in either. xx

    A Fashion Tale // UK Fashion & Beauty Blog

  10. November 6, 2014 / 5:47 pm

    This is all so true, I love it!
    It's so important to be reminded of things like this, but seriously…whoever actually looks at all the photos they see on social media, and believes that 'perfect photos = perfect all the time' need their own heads looked at!

    Lovely, honest post πŸ™‚

  11. November 6, 2014 / 5:51 pm

    I love this post! I say this to my friends all the time – people post things of facebook of nights out, holidays etc and they sometimes get really jealous. I have to politely remind them that no one is going to post a picture of them eating dinner and watching corrie! That doesn't make good entertainment.. xxx

  12. November 6, 2014 / 6:20 pm

    I love this post as much as I love Your blog πŸ™‚ You just made my day πŸ™‚

  13. November 6, 2014 / 6:22 pm

    This is all so true! I think it is easy to forget that people only post the best bits, even though we all know that is what we do ourselves! Lovely post xx

  14. November 6, 2014 / 6:22 pm

    Such a true post, but I loved it so much! There have been so many times where I've also forgot to Instagram something and felt genuinely bad about it.

    Beka. xo

  15. November 6, 2014 / 6:26 pm

    This is absolutely so on point! Lovely post πŸ™‚


  16. November 6, 2014 / 6:26 pm

    This is such a lovely post, I agree with all the points you made! Abi πŸ™‚

  17. November 6, 2014 / 8:07 pm

    I agree with you completely. I only post the good things on my blog and instagram. I have more boring days than I do glam days.

    As a web designer, I also like to blog about how I make layouts and the process behind them. I think it's easy to come off as knowing everything about coding, and a few of my commenters have expressed how complicated it all is and they feel intimated to try new things.

    But the reality is, I don't know any more than them. I make a lot of mistakes. I take forever to code. I use Google all the time. But I don't focus on those things because I don't want my blog to be negative. I want people to know my passion for the web first and foremost, and I want them to know that it's possible to learn how to code too.


  18. November 6, 2014 / 8:54 pm

    Such a good post Becky! I think that the younger generation are going to have a really hard time growing up in the 'instagram generation' because some children are going to think that to be 'filtered' is real life. It is so important that we try and show our full selves online, without being afraid to show a little bit of vunerability and 'normalness' without filters!


  19. November 6, 2014 / 9:02 pm

    Completely agree with you and the fact you have written about it makes me feel so much more confident. I hate when people feel down about themselves because of different peoples blogs/instagrams/social media portrayed lives. You are 100% honest, and that is why I love to read your posts πŸ™‚ Love you!xxxx

    Love Charlotte xxxx

  20. November 6, 2014 / 9:07 pm

    I try to be as truthful and true as I can when blogging, but naturally you want to upload the best photos and those posts that look the prettiest are often the ones you're happiest with. My readers know that I struggle with my health and that has a knock-on effect to my look and thankfully they are all very accepting of that and don't mind if I can't suck my tummy in or have messy hair. Lately I felt so comfortable sharing with them, that I've posted several photos without makeup and looking pretty crap, but they were just wonderful about it.

  21. November 6, 2014 / 9:27 pm

    This post is so accurate! As you said, no one has a perfect life but it's obvious they'll show the best bits of it instead of the bad ones. I seriously really liked it, thanks for sharing! x


  22. November 6, 2014 / 9:44 pm

    totally agree! I often get the "oh no" feeling if I forget to instagram something photo-friendly, and have been known to take down a photo if it doesn't live up to how I feel it should look, lately I've definitely tried to do less of that, and less selfies so I don't feel so self critical x

  23. November 6, 2014 / 10:16 pm

    I completely agree with all of this! I don't understand people who criticise others' Instagram feeds for being too "perfect" – who is going to take photos of their messy bedrooms?

    Tessa / Bramble & Thorn

  24. November 7, 2014 / 12:26 am

    I think this is a Fantastic post!!!!!! I always compare myself to photos and other peoples lives. I know it's only a millisecond snapshot of their lives, but I forget that. Up until recently I've never felt good enough. Now I'm starting to believe it's not all about the 'outside'

  25. November 7, 2014 / 3:24 am

    I loved this post, i love photography as well but my instagram pictures are my normal/real life, i rarely use filters because i like my pictures to feel real

  26. November 7, 2014 / 8:48 am

    I think a lot of people have this illusion about bloggers, but who wants to take a photo of their messy room and broadcast it to the world?


  27. November 7, 2014 / 9:40 am

    So true. I always think that bloggers are living the life. They post the prettiest things and it looks like they have the prettiest lifes. But of course they have sad moments too! Sometimes it's hard to remember that.

    Kisses, Eline

  28. November 7, 2014 / 10:34 am

    Great post! This is so true and I sometimes feel that I do things or take certain pictures to make my life look better πŸ™ It's quite sad

    Natalie xo

    Petal Poppet Blogs β™₯

  29. November 7, 2014 / 12:52 pm

    This is such a wonderful, honest post. I think we all need to take a step back sometimes and realise that it is ok not to be perfect, it's something I'm really trying to do! Loved this post! Rachel xxx Sparkles and Starlight

  30. November 7, 2014 / 1:34 pm

    This is so true and I'm also guilty for eating something before instagramming it and to be honest I felt a bit disappointed in myself! Sometimes it's hard to remember that bloggers don't take photos and document every single thing that happens in their lives and that they don't take photos of themselves or their houses on bad days. Xx


  31. November 7, 2014 / 2:44 pm

    you're so righhtt. People imagine a perfect, cute, amazing life when they see an instagram picture of someone else. It's not true, we are all human beings who have flaws and make mistakes. It's so sad to hear people feeling bad about themselves and trying to be someone that they're not.


  32. November 7, 2014 / 3:41 pm

    Such a good peice. I sometimes find my self wondering why I don't have the lives of others and then I realise I should just be thankful for what I have xx :o)


  33. November 7, 2014 / 4:03 pm

    I a million percent agree. No one has a truly perfect life. Everyone has down days, or comfy days where all you want to do is eat pizza in your joggers. I always try and be completely honest about everything in my blog and I can see you do that too.
    Obviously you want to put good quality nice pictures on your blog. They are not going to be of the bad they will most likely be good. And that is perfectly fine.

    This is a really great post.


  34. November 7, 2014 / 5:04 pm

    100% agree! Everyone should be thankful for what they have and not compare themselves to the lives of others πŸ™‚ Especially because a lot of the time it's compared to a celebrity, who seem to set unreachable standards thanks to media – everyone has down days, and no ones life is perfect! πŸ™‚


  35. November 7, 2014 / 6:43 pm

    I'm really glad that you addressed this because I think alot of people stress themselves about not having picture perfect worthy lives. You're right we are not going to upload pics of our heaving laundry pile lol or sink full of dishes! Great post πŸ™‚ xoxox Shaz


  36. November 8, 2014 / 3:44 am

    This is such a nice and inspiring post. A real eye opener. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. πŸ™‚

    Life With Antlers

  37. November 8, 2014 / 1:54 pm

    Haha – I had to laugh at "you added in some real life photos"! You have a black dog and white sofa – in anyone else's world that would equal a constant hairy mess!! My dog is tri coloured and even looking at the sofa gets it dirty. To take pics like this you must have to clean it on a twice daily basis no?

  38. November 8, 2014 / 5:04 pm

    To be honest I don't understand people who assume peoples lives are really as they seem on there blog, I thought everyone knew that it's just the pretty pictures we post, I want my blog to be a nice pretty place to look at, no one wants to see my cobwebs!!

  39. November 9, 2014 / 7:49 am

    I am so glad someone has blogged about this. I think our younger generation get too hung up on perfection and how wonderful bloggers/vloggers lives are. My 14 year old step daughter certainly thinks it's what she wants to do/be! Life is never that simple ever! Good for you on speaking out!

  40. November 9, 2014 / 4:26 pm

    Agree 100% with this post. I always enjoy your photos (especially ones of Oscar obviously!) but we all know that being a female means floordrobes, bad hair days and general sloppiness some days. And people need to realise that it's okay to not be picture perfect every single day. xx

  41. November 16, 2014 / 10:44 am

    You're so beautiful and I love this post, so honest! xx

  42. November 18, 2014 / 10:09 pm

    It is very true that no ones life is perfect. I think people need to realise that many bloggers only want to post the good stuff, I hate posting about the negtives in my life and try to take the best photos. That's pretty much what blogging is! Everyones blog has their own style and people need to get over it! xo

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