Beating the social media blues.

The majority of us spend quite a lot of time on social media.
We often upload #selfies, share pictures of what we are having for tea and snap photo’s of our pets looking ridiculously cute whilst they are sleeping.

Whilst scrolling through these various platforms we are bombarded with carefully curated, little square shaped sizes of seemingly ‘unfiltered perfection’ Flawless complexions, new ‘It’ products, incredible houses, fantastic toned and tanned bodies. We like to see these nice things, some people use them as inspiration and ‘goals’ to work towards. Which is fine, in moderation.

It is hard to take social media with a pinch of salt, in the past I have felt guilty for tweeting about having a bad day, it feels like you have to be positive, but that’s not the real world. We aren’t always Pinterest, picture-perfect happy. We need to remember whilst social media is very nice to look at it isn’t always the exact truth. For example a well-known celebrity posted a picture of herself with a tea wrap across her tiny stomach claiming that it kept her stomach toned. (I rolled my eyes so hard, I almost went blind.)

It can be so easy to compare yourself, when self-esteem seems to stem from the number of likes, we receive on a bloody photo. I have seen girls tweet about taking 100’s of pictures of themselves before scrutinising over which one of them to finally upload. A friend of mine tweeted that people unfollowed her after she uploaded a selfie. To me, that’s just plain cruel. I go out of my way to like selfies, because it takes balls to upload a picture of your face to social media. To me, that picture tells me you felt cute today, so I am going to go out of my way to like it because you’ve got balls and you are beautiful.

I don’t want to un-plug from social media I want to change the way I use and view it, in this day and age I don’t think it’s a completely realistic scenario to delete all social media platforms. In a world where we are a text message and two blue tick’s away from instant contact, the world wide web is at our finger tips, I want to use social media differently. I will be sharing my bad days, hair, skin, and mental because I think it’s important to do so. Because bad days happen and they are real.

Just try to remember it is only a highlight reel, we don’t see the nitty gritty, crappy moments most of the time. I am currently sat here full of cold, with my hair in a greasy un-kempt top knot, with muddy paw prints on my dressing gown. I haven’t posted this current version of myself on my social media channels, but just because I haven’t shared it, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen. It does.

We are humans, we all have down days, we all have moments of insecurities, everyone gets spots now and again! Absolutely nobody lives the cookie-cutter, Pinterest perfect, life despite what their twitter timeline or instagram grid may tell you.

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  1. February 23, 2017 / 12:00 pm

    Totally agree!! We only show what we want others to see. There will be plenty of us going through some form of hell whilst still maintaining a ‘picture perfect’ life. Great post! x

  2. February 23, 2017 / 12:21 pm

    Well said, I couldn’t agree more. I love social media but I view it without my tinted glasses on. I have fallen foul of the whole – “omg everyone else’s life is so much more interesting than mine” train of thought in the past. But now I view it like a styled photo shoot. The bit in the lens may look fabulous but there will be a whole pile of crap around it that you just can’t see because the photographer doesn’t want you to.

    Great candid post!

  3. February 23, 2017 / 1:00 pm

    This is such an important message. I totally agree that it can feel like everyone is living a perfect life through social media – I’m guilty of it myself in a way, as I really think about everything that I post! It’s so strange to think about how we grew up without phones, the internet or social media and how much it is integrated into our lives now!

    Lynnsay x
    http://www.sartorialscot.com

  4. February 23, 2017 / 2:09 pm

    You are so so beautiful, and I love how you create such beautiful pictures, but you’re also so raw and honest. You don’t pretend that your curated pictures are “real life”. You’re right that it’s so easy to compare ourselves on social media, so it’s so refreshing when someone who creates such visually beautiful content speaks on this topic. Thank you <3

  5. February 23, 2017 / 2:09 pm

    “I have seen girls tweet about taking 100s of pictures of themselves before scrutinising over which one of them to finally upload. A friend of mine tweeted that people unfollowed her after she uploaded a selfie.” << This is so sad. I'm a teacher at a secondary school and social media is the main cause of anxiety and reasons for regular non-attendance. It's crazy to think just how powerful it can be.

  6. February 23, 2017 / 3:22 pm

    This is so important to remember. I’ve definitely felt pressure to remain completely positive on all platforms, but it’s just not real life. I love following people who open up their struggles and share their imperfections – it’s admirable!

    Carrie | http://carrieelisekho.com/

  7. February 23, 2017 / 7:59 pm

    Love this, it’s important to remember that social media only shows the good snippets and angles of people lives so we can’t take it too seriously! x

    http://www.shayholly.com

  8. February 23, 2017 / 11:58 pm

    This is so important in a time where Instagram and Facebook only show us the best parts of someone’s life. It takes a lot of effort to achieve those “feed goals”; it’s not as easy breezy as some would have us believe.

  9. February 24, 2017 / 4:05 pm

    Agreed! Have you ever read any of Sophie Kinsella’s books? One of her most recent ones is My Not So Perfect Life. It’s fun, quick, light fiction. You can look it up on Goodreads! (It’s related to the topic of how some people’s lives look perfect on social media, but of course, nobody’s life is perfect) -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s

  10. March 3, 2017 / 8:56 am

    Great post! Social media in the past has made me feel anxious as it’s so easy to compare your life to somebody elses, but it’s a waste of time because it’s not reality! I miss the days when pictures were just Facebook albums of random, often badly taken, digital camera photos!

    Yasmin x
    The Sweet Seven Five

  11. March 3, 2017 / 7:40 pm

    Totally agree with everything you’ve written. It’s the main reason I made the decision a while ago to try and be completely real on my social media. I post the good times and the bad, in the hope others will see it and feel that it’s OK to not always be OK. Whilst it’s nice to look at ‘perfect’ pictures of pretty things, I really appreciate and connect more with people who post about their everyday lives. It’s hard not to compare yourself to others when it comes to social media, but I think it’s only us who can make a change on how the world is portrayed there 🙂

    Jenny xx

    http://www.jaffacat.co.uk

  12. March 4, 2017 / 3:40 am

    Thank you for sharing this post ♥ It is so easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of perfect social media posts. I’ve had to remind myself that not every day is glamorous for everyone. I agree that posting selfies is brave — people can be so cruel and mean!

  13. March 17, 2017 / 9:33 am

    Love this post so much – thanks for sharing!!!

    Sometimes, it really feels like my whole instagram feed is having the time of their lives, travelling and enjoying coffee and cute avocado breads in Paris or lying on the beach of the Seychelles…of course I do know, that this is NOT the normal life of an average women in her twenties but still – it feels like, my life is not exciting at all *lol* There are days when I can easily get over that fact but sometimes there are bad days when you don’t feel good and your insta feed makes that even worse.
    So thanks so much for your post and your approach on this – I will try to do the same ♥

    xxx and kisses from Berlin,
    Tina.

    http://www.styleappetite.com

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