I had a really stressful time last week, without going into too much personal detail… a lot of things seemed to go wrong all at once (isn’t that always the way?) which included a horrendous case of food poisoning, an exam and a loved one having an operation. So I thought I’d put together a few tips on how I tend to deal with a really rubbish day. Sometimes, just sometimes practising self-care isn’t always about wasting hours away in front of Netflix and ordering a ridiculous amount of fast food. Hopefully these ten tips may be useful to you, if you’re having a particularly bad day or even a lousy week!
1. Distract yourself.
Sometimes when things are getting a little on top of you, you feel like you must focus, focus, focus until something is done. Take a break, set yourself a time limit and have a breather. Watch a Youtube video, or an episode of your favourite t.v show, maybe after a short break, you can re-assess the situation and you’ll realise it’s just one of those days.
2. Resist the urge to ‘treat yo-self’
Sometimes big impulsive treats when you’re having a bad day aren’t always the best idea in the long run. Do you really need to place that extra large Topshop order, will you feel guilty after? Before you press ‘checkout’ ask yourself if it will really make you feel better.
3. Don’t isolate yourself
Time for yourself is always good, but don’t shut yourself away. Get dressed, visit your friends, go for a walk. Sitting and dwelling in the ‘bad’ mood won’t do you any good, chances are it will only just prolong it. Call your mum, stay in contact with those closest to you, they probably know you better and know how to help boost your mood.
4. Keep things in perspective
I really like the quote ‘just because you have a bad day, doesn’t mean you have a bad life’ but it’s easy to feel that way sometimes. Make a ‘happy list’ of the things you have to be positive about, no matter how small they may be, it’s easy to take things for granted sometimes, even if you don’t feel like counting your blessings right now, this might help.
5. Have a happy playlist at hand.
Whenever I’m feeling a little fed up, music always helps. Put down Adele’s heartbreak album, don’t venture to the ‘sad songs’ section on spotify…listen to upbeat happy songs, I find they really help lift my mood
and before I know it I’m having an 80’s disco in my bedroom in my underwear
6. Do something nice for someone else.
Take the focus off of your own problems and do something good for someone else. Offer to help out a family member with an errand, call that friend you’ve been meaning to reply to, compliment people, random acts of kindness make the world go round. It’s nice to be nice.
7. Practise genuine self-care
I know I’ve stated many a time that on rubbish days I’ll order a large pizza and park myself on Tom’s sofa in front of my favourite series on Netflix (did you spot the parks and recreation quote up there^) if you are feeling really down this isn’t always a good idea… Pick up those clothes off the floor, do the dishwasher, make a to do list, to help organise your hectic schedule. These are small, yet productive tasks that will really help you in the long term.
8. Sleep is your friend.
Staying up worrying all night, or focusing on your terrible day will do you no good whatsoever. I know it’s a lot easier said than done to ‘not worry’ Turn off your phone, try and get an early night… tomorrow is a new day.
Your parent’s were right all along. There’s a good chance you really will feel better in the morning.
9. Plan a positive, give yourself something to look forward too.
I’m not talking a 3 week, five star holiday or a huge shopping trip, just something small like arrange lunch at your favourite restaurant with a friend next week, or go and see that film you’ve been meaning to for absolutely ages. Little things always mean the most, having something nice to look forward to might make your day seem not so bad after all.
10. “Promise me you’ll always believe: you’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
Everyone messes up, once in a while. Even those people who seem to have almost totally perfect lives have rubbish days. Will your bad day matter in a year? It probably won’t even matter by the end of the week. Everyone has bad days and they always seem much worse at the time…